Tuesday, June 4, 2013

With Sympathy

Adam and I have sadly remarked how we haven't had wedding showers, baby showers and weddings to attend in awhile but rather have had funerals, funerals and another funeral.
I mentioned that my Mom lost her first sibling a little over two weeks ago.  How sad it was for her family to lose their first of eleven siblings.  What I didn't say was that she has two very sick siblings who battle with congestive heart failure, yet as sick as they are they have been maintaining.
Tuesday after we got home from Memorial weekend Adam's sister called to let us know that his Aunt Sue was in the hospital with many complications (I can't remember all the things she said) from stage four lung cancer.  We had no idea she had cancer.  Things were so bad that Aunt Sue's family were calling people to let them know she had cancer. 
Meanwhile on Tuesday my Mom who cleans for my Uncle Ken, called to say that on what was to be her care day (cooking, cleaning, shopping & talking) for my Uncle Ken, she brought him to the hospital.  He was having a hard time breathing and needed to go in.  "This might be it," he said. 
Adam's Aunt, my second Uncle in two weeks, in the hospital fighting for their lives.
Thursday we received the call the Aunt Sue left this world for the next.  It seems still so strange to think she's gone. 
Friday my Uncle had two stints put in his heart that he absolutely needed to survive.  Then the plan was to wean him slowly off the ventilator, hoping that his body would take over.  It was tried a couple of times, unsuccessfully.  He also left this world for the next yesterday.  He's been so sick for so long, fighting the good fight but it's still hard to think he's not here anymore.
I have many sad feelings for those closest to my two Uncles and Adam's Aunt.  I find it hard to see so much sadness this close to me in such a short amount of time.  I am sorry for the pain my Mom is going through, as well as my Aunts and Uncles.  It must be very hard to lose two brothers in 17 days.  I am also sad for my cousins who have just lost their Dad and those that lost their Mom.   
I believe as the saying goes, "They are in a better place", but it's still sad.  It's sad to see people cry from their pain.  It's sad to think that you'll not see somebody here in Earth ever again.  I am still saddened that I can't take my Grandpa out for lunch or call him.  I still think it's sad that Adam's Mom is gone and our kids never got to have her for a Grandma.  I have no doubt that they are in a better place, yet, we still miss them. 
It's a hard start to Summer.
My sister's girls are with us this week.  We planned on having them and then bringing them back home mid-week.  My hopes were to be able to do something fun with them, take them to the zoo or something.  Adam & I both feel bad that we've had to get a babysitter for all the kids yesterday and again today.  I'm thankful that the kids seem pretty happy just being able to play together.  Not quite the Aunt of the Year award material happening but we have managed a smore's party featuring smore's from our backyard fire pit.  Tonight we hope to get back early enough for a pizza party followed by a trip to the nearby ice cream shop.  I've seen a lot of swinging in the playground, scavenger hunts, school with various teachers, reading, coloring, toad catching & kissing.  I am also very thankful for good babysitters!


We are very blessed, even through our grief. 

God is good......

1 comment:

  1. So sorry Tina, what a hard year. Maybe summer is exactly what you need. (if it ever truly comes)

    You and your family are in my prayers.


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